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Posted in dating on August 20th, 2011 by sex – Comments Off
You have your eye on an older woman, met her by the water cooler, grocery store or a mutual acquaintance.
She is not your usual type, there is a sexual frisson as you catch yourself watching her as she enters and exits in a perfume bandana. Cougars are persuasive, articulate and sophisticated. They have the ability to excel under pressure. Some cougars enjoy the flirtation of young male company and have no shortage of dinner dates or willing escorts.
Grooming
Before you make a beeline, you have to be comfortable with being a Burberry accessory, raid your mother’s wardrobe for that expensive skin cream, splurge at metro sexual beauty counters and invest in a tuxedo.
Most women, including cougars have kissed a fair number of frogs and waited indefinitely as they turned to toads, scorpions or rattle snakes. Shed those extra pounds in exchange for prime real-estate in her eye candy bar.
Observation/Information gathering
Observe her discretely at her favourite joints, clubs and bars, observe how she relaxes, her hobbies and how she maintains her lithe physique. Do not expect her to mop up after you or imagine adopting a maternal surrogate, the umbilical cord is wild, displaced confetti in your sweaty, steaming hands. Empty the moth balls and dust mites enveloping your wallet, liquid currency will whet her appetite
Fallacies and myths
Cougar personas have been widely propagated as the lonely, alcoholic Mrs Robinson, in the graduate or the middle age carcass of Shirley Valentine. The over 40′s may have a number of boons; including liberation from family responsibilities, financial independence, and a biological clock that is no longer ticking. Modern day cougars include Demi Moore, Madonna, Susan Sarandon, Sharon Stone and Kim Cattrall oozing sexuality from ever pore, dynamic and lethally delectable.
Gentle warning
Steer clear of online dating quasi cougar sites, inhabited by lonely mature women with no close fit to the psychological profile of this feline. This breed would generally not post an ad online; they mark their own territory and vet their own conquests.
Don’t tell your mother you are dating an older woman, she may approach the women and accuse her of cradle snatching.Err on the side of caution and mention you are providing a Samaritan service to the older women who is the mother of one of your friends.
Cougar relationships are usually short lived, unless you can baste her funny bone and ignite her cerebral cortex on a frequent basis. Do not plan seduction as a military exercise/espionage or a scripted performance, you are not snagging prey or attacking an enemy compound.If she is a cougar she will see through the illusion and prefer to play ball with the big guns.
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5 Clues to Why You Are Settling When it Comes to Love
Posted in dating, Match Making on August 18th, 2011 by sex – Comments Off
I recently spoke with a guy who claims that finding love is too hard, and with a *sigh*, he said, “I’ll have to resort to escorts. ” Now, he was joking about the escort, but still….that is an example of what some gay men are experiencing when it comes to falling in love – and I think sometimes it takes extreme change and awareness to finally get to the point where settling isn’t a choice anymore.
Personally, I believe you know. You know what your options are. I really think you believe in the fairytale ending too, but somewhere along the trip you’ve squashed the dream way down underneath all your pain. Sometimes you even get a glimpse of what it might look like being with a wonderful man, expressing your love, in a committed monogamous relationship, right?
Why do we settle? Well, my idea is, you settle, because you view yourself as not being good enough. Your self-esteem is low and you’ll do whatever it takes to seek the love that you desire. Now, think about this. What if I said that your self-esteem is actually very strong and all you need to do is look within and tap into that resource? I know, I’m starting to sound all woo-woo, but my point is, finding love with another person starts when you find love with in yourself.
“Would you do whatever it took to seek the love within yourself – that love which you desire from another?” – GH
Another theory I have, is when you settle, you’re working so hard at seeking acceptance from another person, that you will do almost anything to attain it, like compromise your values and requirements that are essential for a healthy relationship, but in reality, you’re really trying to accept yourself – for who you are -you just don’t know it yet.
Take a moment, clear some space in your day, sit down and start getting curious about where you might be settling in your life? Does your job’s salary not match your talents and dedication? Does your boyfriend play around with other men; you’re accepting of it, when deep down inside, it’s not ok. Are you putting off starting your own business, because you think it’s just a pipe dream and you’ll never do it for whatever reason?
5 Clues To Why You Are Settling
Now it’s time to take a stance, and tell yourself that you are done settling; all done. I believe in you. Well, let me give you 5 Clues to Why You’re Settling. They will help you recognize when it’s happening, so you can say, I’m Done!
1. You’ve claimed the, “I’m always meeting the wrong guy”, Ticket. Actually, you meet so many “wrong guys” that, from here on out you will continue to do so until you start recognizing what is so off about the men you meet. Importantly, what’s going on in yourself to attract men, who are not up to your standards? After all, we attract who we are.
2.You’ve designed the perfect man (in your head) and when you go out and try to find him, you blame the world that there aren’t any good men left. Guys, let’s face it. We’re guys and for the most part, when we envision the man we want to spend our days with, we can go little above and beyond what’s truly realistic.
Take a deep and close look at the man of your dreams and check in to see if it’s based on reality or a yearning or an feeling of emptiness.
3.You’re not over your last relationship. So, you’re with someone new and you thought you’ve found Mr. Right again, but after some time, you start comparing it to your last relationship, because you believed he was your one true love. Your current partner is sensing that and is starting to pull away from you, because he sees you are not in it 100%. Just know you can fall in love many times over. Each time is true and first. Stop settling by believing that you will never find true love again…you will.
4. I’m moody and that’s just the way I am. Well, how many guys have been put off by your mood swings? Remember, you are not your moods and you might want to do some self-reflecting to begin to understand why it is you’re so hostile. Stop settling, by not living your life in anger and pain and start releasing whatever emotional turmoil you are going through. You and everyone around you will love you for it.
5. You haven’t loved the wounded little boy enough. Do you cringe when you think about being around other gay guys? You walk you walk into a room filled with gay men, and you panic and become anxious. There is a reason for that, and it has nothing to do with the men in that room. It has to do with you. Once you start forming a bond with that hurt little boy inside you and start asking him what he needs, your confidence will soar.
That’s why single gay men come to me, because they are ready to commit to NOT settling anymore in any area of their lives, especially LOVE. Love is a gift, a gift we all hold, and once you can let go of the settling, you will then be able to unleash your love and be loved in return.
Speaker, mentor & expert dating coach for single gay men. He takes a “heart-based” approach to teaching gay men how to build unstoppable confidence, self-esteem so they can approach and start meaningful and genuine conversations with more guys and go on more dates.
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International Dating – Why Don’t Russian People Smile?
Posted in dating on July 4th, 2011 by sex – Comments Off
International dating involves a lot of barriers. The first of these is of course distance and it tends to dominate the relationship in the early stages. What a lot of new participants in international dating soon experience though can be more of a barrier – and that is the cultural differences between each partner. Today I want to look at that in depth and in particular answer the question – why don’t Russian women smile?
A smile in Western society conveys several meanings. On the surface it shows happiness and joy. On a subconscious level, a smile creates trust and rapport. To loosely quote Mark Twain “wrinkles should merely indicate where smiles have been”. It displays happiness and acceptance of other people.
To put his into context of your partner, the first image you saw of her was most likely from her online profile. She probably included photos taken by her family where she was smiling and enjoying what was going on around her. As your friendship progressed into a relationship, you probably started to use a webcam. Though a bit grainy, you could see her well enough and she often smiled back at you.
If your partner is the only contact you have had with any Eastern European society, then what comes next is going to be a culture shock for you. You are going to get on a plane and go visit her. As soon as you cross into Russian airspace, everyone (and I do mean everyone) is not going to smile at you. The woman processing your visa as you enter customs is going to treat you with disdain. The middle aged waitress who serves you at dinner that night will treat you with a level just above contempt. Well, this is how it is going to appear to you anyway until you settle into your new surroundings.
Russia is a land of contrast. The people are genuinely warm, caring and friendly but only to people they know. They rarely show this emotion in public. If you are an American, British or Australian man, you are going to have difficulty adjusting to this at first. You are use to service with a smile. You are use to offering up a quick smile as an apology if you suddenly block someone’s way on the sidewalk. But not here. At best, you will be greeted with a neutral expression.
So why is this? Why don’t Russian people smile? It is their culture born out of a century of oppression. This is a country that sent 20 million of its own people to the gulags in Siberia during the 1930′s, 40′s and 50′s. This is one of the coldest and harshest inhabited places of earth. The Road Of Bones that connects Magadan and Yakutsk is aptly named as the inmates from the labor camps and gulags who died while building the road are buried under or laid next to the road.
Being suddenly ‘disappeared’ from society and ending up here up here did not mean you were a violent criminal. Everyday Russians were sent here for trivial items such as being late for work, petty theft or anti-government jokes. It was a form on national punishment used to control the masses. And it worked. People became paranoid of anyone they did not know. It created a survival consciousness that avoided eye contact or smiling at anyone.
Fortunately, this is changing. The older generation will not change but younger Russian people are being westernized. An 18 year old girl will readily smile at you if you just thanked her for the service she just provided while serving you lunch or selling a movie ticket. You will also find a contrast from the public life of Russian people and what they are like in the family home. A man who appears hard and unforgiving outside is a warm and caring husband or father once he comes home for the day.
If your relationship is at the point where you are about to get on a plane and experience this first hand, remember to take it in your stride. The parting advice that I can give you is when you do enter a Russian home for the first time, remember to take a gift with you to thank your hosts. They are welcoming you as a friend or even one of their family. Respect that moment and show your thanks.
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The Steps To Dating
Posted in dating on July 4th, 2011 by sex – Comments Off
Heathy long term relationships do not develop properly when two people skip very important steps in relationship building, especially during the dating period. By doing these simple steps in order, you can prevent future realtionship breakdowns.
Of coarse, the chemistry between two people will have a signifigant impact on wether two people are made for each other. But these tips can give your relationship a fighting chance.
How a relationship should develop:
1. Eye to Body
This is when you see that special someone from a distance. Depending on what you see will determine if you move on to the next step.
2. Eye to Eye
When two people make eye to eye contact, our brains evaluate the potential for somebody to become a mate. The more it likes what it sees the chance increases that a person gaze longer at the other persons face.
3. Mouth to Ear
This is the point when two people begin a casual converstation. This is an important stage because you will evaluate the other person and find if you have anything in common with them. This is a good time to evaluate the chemistry between you and the other person.
If you liked what you seen in stage 2, but ignore stage 3, then the relationship as very little chance at success.
4. Hand in Hand
This is the very first step at bodily contact. Holding hands may seem old fashioned to some, but most females want this kind of affection. In this same catagory is Arm around Shoulder. Proceed with caution to see which one is right for you and your potential mate.
5. Mouth to cheek
To avoid the over-welming feeling of moving too fast. I advise that you move as slowely as possible. A simple kiss on the cheek can test how that other person feels about the idea. The best way to move into this area of a relationship is to be open and ask what the other person thinks about it.
6. Mouth to Mouth
This step is a pretty big step. Sometimes the timing is just right, but be careful not to do it too soon. If you missed a step or two, you may need to backtrack. If you don’t do things in order you might freak out your date. Don’t slobber all over your date. Well at least the first time around anyways.
7. Tongue to Tongue
This is not a neccasary step. You may want to ask if your companion is comfortable with this.
8. Hand to Body
This step usually happens when two people are caught up in the act of kissing. Be careful you may turn hot into cold if you make the other person uncomfortable. However it is possible to turn hot into hotter also.
I don’t advise taking the relationship further unless two people have spent a lot of time together and have decided that they want to spend the rest of their lives together. The reason is to really make a relationship solid is to “only do these steps with the right person.” If you do these steps with every casual person then you are likely to have your senses dulled and will not know the difference whent he right one comes along.
9. You know
I don’t need to explan what this is!
Now the most important step of all:
Once you have found that special person and have married, repeat steps 1-9 at least once a day (when possible). This will keep your relationship as fresh as the first day you met. Don’t skip any steps.
If a husband comes home from work, skips all the steps then wants step number nine. The result could be the wife feeling used and unappreciated. That is why it is important to repeat all the steps!
I hope this article helps you build a strong and healthy relationship.
